Unlock the power of intention and focus in your life with practical tips and insights. Explore how intentionality can enhance productivity, happiness, and personal growth.
What does intention look like to you?
Advice
from a famous comedian
Jim Carey the
American comedian, artist, and actor said, “It’s our
intention. Our intention is everything. Nothing happens on this
planet without it. Not one single thing has ever been accomplished
without intention.”
Often we walk through life
on autopilot. This can be great during times of stress when
decision-making is hard, but in general, it’s more productive to be
intentional. I’m not saying we always must be productive, certainly
in my life, I’ve been utterly non-productive when I needed to be on
autopilot.
A free class about well-being
When I think about what Jim Carey had to say about intention I
think about what I’ve learned about happiness. I took a class using
the app Coursera about happiness; it was presented by Yale professor
Laurie Santos. The course is called, “The Science of Well-Being”
and what I learned is that all the things we imagine equal happiness
are not what truly ends up being an important factor in happiness.
How can that be?
What is happiness and what happiness isn’t
Certainly, if you have money concerns, having more money will
make you happier. I know this from experience. When I was 23 I had
two kids, a toddler and an infant. We had one income, and we
struggled financially. Years later, I was divorced, my kids were
living their own life and out of college, I was a professional living
with my professional boyfriend and we had a lot of disposable income.
I can assure you that having enough money to pay all my bills with
enough left over to travel anywhere in the world for a few weeks was
better. I was happier because I eliminated money troubles from my
day-to-day life.
But unlimited amounts of money do not
equal happiness. Look up the unfortunate examples of lottery winners.
There is a lot of unhappiness amongst that rare subset of society. In
fact, when scholars studied the effect of money on happiness they
found that there is a plateau. Once a person earns around $75,000
annually their happiness doesn’t increase with additional
earnings.
What else can make us happy? You may think a
great car, perhaps a vacation, or a swell wardrobe. But according to
Yale professor Laurie Santos, things don’t make us happy.
Focus
What makes us happy on a consistent basis is focus. A Harvard
study conducted by Daniel Gilbert and Matthew Killingsworth showed
that people are happier when they are immersed in what they are doing
versus distracted. How did they measure this? They sent a cell phone
notification to thousands of volunteers, asked them how they felt,
and asked if they were focused on the task they were doing of if they
were distracted. The participants who were the most happy were the
participants who were focused on the task at hand. This seems simple,
perhaps too simple, but from my own experience, I believe this study
nailed how we can become more satisfied in our lives.
If
focus is equal to happiness, then intention is the mechanism we can
use to not only be happier but also be productive in areas of our
lives that have meaning to us.
It’s all well and good to
be focused when doing mundane tasks like chores, but if you have a
big project, doing the dishes, or procrasticleaning as I like to call
it, won’t get you to the goal line. You may be happier, but you’ll
not raise a barn, plow a field, write the great American novel, or
earn a bachelor's degree, or Ph.D. if you are focused on happiness
via the kitchen sink.
How can you use the idea of focus
aligned with intention to be more productive?
Try
the following –
·
List the three most important things you must do each morning. For
example, today I must finish this blog post and post it, exercise,
and create a Valentine’s Day card for my spouse to go with the
fabulous dessert I’ve planned for him. Each day has a few very
important tasks that I must complete.
·
Focus solely on the task at hand. When I’m watercolor painting my
spouse's Valentine’s Day card, I’ll only be watercolor painting
his card, I won’t juggle a phone call, answer emails, or plan
anything, I’ll just paint.
· Set a
time limit. Time limits force action and frame it into a reasonable
amount of time to accomplish what is important. If you don’t give
yourself enough time you’ll become frustrated. If you allow too
much time you’ll become complacent. I know from experience that it
will take about three hours to paint a watercolor card from start to
finish.
· Savor the conclusion. When
I finish any form of art, I step back and admire the work I’ve
done. I allow myself a moment to reflect on the design, how well I
integrated the components of my effort, and reflect on what the piece
may mean to the person I share it with.
As
you can see there is nothing complicated in my effort. I do
everything I can to ensure I’m focused when I’m working, and I
avoid ‘multitasking” which is impossible. Humans may think they
are doing several tasks all at once but what they are really doing is
task switching, which is naturally reducing focus and making a person
less happy.
What do you think is important?
Consider what you think is important to you. Perhaps you have a
big project that you want to complete, maybe you need to earn more
money, or you may be looking for love. Most things that are important
to you are achievable, but you must have intention. You must decide
what you want and pursue it with focus. How can you know what you
want? That is tough. Most people don’t know what they want. Try
this, consider what makes you really unhappy in your life right now,
and then use intention to change that thing that makes you feel
unhappy.
Examples of experiences that can lead to
unhappiness are poor health, a bad relationship with a lover,
children, parents, or in-laws, and a lack of resources like money,
food, or adequate housing. Poor economic opportunity can lead to
dissatisfaction. Lack of control apparently isn’t an issue for many
in terms of happiness; make sure to watch Daniel
Gilbert's Ted Talk to understand this.
Let’s say you
are unhappy with your health. You can be intentional in your effort
to overcome your health issues. You may not solve your health
challenge with intention, but I can tell you from my own experience
with autoimmune challenges, I’m happier whenever I feel as though I
have worked towards a better outcome.
What if you are
lamenting the strain your relationship has been experiencing? You can
seek relationship counseling, you can try to understand what is
missing and work to make improvements, and you can decide that the
relationship has run its course and decide to end it. You have
choices, and you can be intentional about how you move through the
world so you can find happiness.
Finally, try to be
intentional in the most important tasks you undertake. Because as Jim
Carey said, nothing gets done without intention.
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